this is like my fave joke
okay that shit was good.
First blonde joke I’ve ever liked in my life.
Seriously- as a child I thought something was wrong with me. As a natural blonde I thought that my hair color was a curse, and that having dark hair meant you were smart, which [to me as a little girl] meant you were pretty.
Blonde was the dirty word that meant idiocy. Blond jokes enforced that for me.
I always felt ugly because i was a blonde. I fought it tooth and nail— got good grades—- but I still felt that in societies eyes I was dumb, or so I thought initially (though i did feel superior to the kids in my classes as they seemed to lag behind.)
Adults and teachers would ask me in elementary, “Are you going to grow to be a model or a basketball player?” (*note I was always tallest in all of my classes.) Never did they ask me if I wanted to be something like an artist or a police officer (at one point I wanted to help people and take care of “bad guys” -i was like 6 or something… Always wanted to be an artist though. Always.)
Never do we teach people to ask questions based on what a person might want internally (cause gawd forbid we learn something about a kid/person), but we always base our perceptions on what they look like.
Stereotypes like the “dumb blond” and gawds, so many fucking others- from racial gender bias, etc. are socially damaging. Either you’re putting down young people mentally or keeping them in a placeholder not allowing you to really know the person.
I love this joke here because it does the simple thing of taking a preconceived notion and turns it on it’s head.
At any rate now a lot of you know why I dye my hair. But it’s become more than that- I have chosen my own identity and who I want to be.
How many out there were as successful as me to beat a stereotype? Because, every blond joke still stings and a sad little girl is still present…